It wasn't until a few years later that I decided to go back to college. This time I went to a community college and drove back home when classes were done. I was in a better state of mind and I had the desire to do well. I worked hard, got great grades and eventually got hired at the hospital I work at now. The one thing that didn't change was my living condition. I always stayed at home with my family and had no desire to move out.
I knew it wouldn't last forever. When my father died it was up to me to start helping out with the bills in the house. If it was up to me I would stay in that house and take it over and raise my family there. I knew that no girl would ever be okay with living with their in-laws and staying there forever. So when I got married Shincy agreed to come live at the house but she said we would move out eventually. That eventually came sooner rather then later. She had a difficult time adjusting to life in my parents house an wanted to move. At first we were looking for houses and things were looking good. We found a few places that we liked but prices were still high in a bad economy. The houses that we looked at were descent but still needed work.
In our hunt for a new house bad news hit. A few days after I told my mother we were planning on moving out Shincy was let go from her job. Whatever it was that we were going to do, we had to do it with a single income. While I do make good enough money, affording a home on long island with only 1 income would be difficult. So we turned our eyes else where and started looking at co-ops. We fell in love with a nice 2 bedroom co-op that was kept in good condition. We negotiated back and forth but eventually were able to settle on a descent price. We were diligent with making sure that all the paperwork was in order but it still took forever to get to our closing date.
Finally in late November we were handed our keys to our first place. Within a week of closing we had gotten our furniture in, set up our utilities and decided to move in. I had grown a lot in my life. When I first started writing this blog I was depressed and not very confident in myself. I am no longer that guy. I transformed myself into a person who believes in himself and ended up with a beautiful wife and owning my first place. Because of that transformation I went through I didn't have a difficult time leaving my parents who I had been living with for over 28 years.
Its been over a month since I moved in and I absolutely love my new place. Even though its not as big as my parents house I feel as if I have more space. In my house I usually just stayed in my room. In the co-ops I have my master bedroom that is huge but I really only use that to change and sleep. Since it has 2 bedrooms I have used the second room as my "man cave" I put my comfortable recliner in there with my 50 inch TV. With that I also have my computer so whenever I want to escape and play some games (which is way to much) I just head over to that room. For Black Friday I went to best buy and bought another 50 inch TV that I put in the living room. So now in the evening when Shincy wants to watch some TV and I want to play some games we have our own space to do our own thing. When we want to spend some time together we snuggle on the couch and watch a movie or our DVR.
Married life is different then when I was single. There are good and bad points of both but I have to say that I am much happier now then I have ever been. I have my beautiful wife, a great place to call my own, and all the stuff that I still enjoy. Shincy will be going back to college to get her degree in Ultrasound soon since the accounting market isn't doing great now. While I don't know what the future holds I am excited to see what is coming up next.
