I have reached an interesting place in my life. Everything I can ask for I am getting. My career is going well, I am having a ton of fun, and I have a girlfriend. Regardless of what is going on in your life you find a way to fill it with something. When I was single I would fill it with video games, movies, television. Now that my girlfriend has entered the picture I find myself missing some of the stuff I used to have a ton of time for. I would always stay on top of my DVR and be caught up with all the latest show but now I find myself deleting stuff I don't watch to make more room for other shows.
Throughout life we all come across change. Change from school to work. Change from single to married. Change from apartment to home. With that we must become flexible and adapt to our new circumstances. With my new girlfriend things have moved pretty quickly. It has been only a month and a half with her but we have spent so much time together. My last couple of girlfriends have been long distance so we sometimes see each other once or twice a month. With my new girl we go out 3-4 times a week.
Being from a traditional Indian family my dating lifestyle is a bit more restricted. I am supposed to hide my dating life from my family a bit more but I haven't. A lot of my friends and family know that we are in a very serious relationship. She has come over to my house and met my parents and I've met her whole family. The one thing I would have never imagined was being able to be in either of our bedrooms with the door closed while our family has been in the house. I have never ventured this far in a relationship before so it is exciting and scary at the same time.
I have learned how to attract her through my recent education of the game but I don't know the correct way to be a good boyfriend. There are a lot of dont's when first dating a girl that become do's as you enter a serious relationship. You are not supposed to compliment a girl, pay for her, or give her affection. If you continue to do that when you are her boyfriend, that relationship is doomed. The material I have read doesn't go that far. I am doing what I always do in most relationships and hoping that works. I feel there has to be a balance in being a good boyfriend. You still have to be confident and be the man to keep her attracted. You can't be a prick and bring her down or else she will feel unworthy and that's not a good relationship to have. I have no problem changing who I am to accommodate a girl but I still want to keep who I am. I don't want to be whipped and cater to everything she wants but I do want to make her happy. The best relationship is when both people care about each other and do things to make each other happy.
Shincy (my girlfriend) has changed my life. I have never felt this way about a girl before her. We are hanging out all weekend long and I don't get tired of her. I am always planning our next date and am excited to spend time with her. Even though it's only been a month and a half we have already started talking about marriage. While a little scary to think about I can see myself spending the rest of my life with her. One of her friends put it best. You guys have such a relaxed relationship and have a ton of affection for each other. She does stuff to make me happy and I want to make her happy. I know when I get out of work I'll be calling her to hear her voice and see how her day has went. When Friday comes around we'll be out on the town having a great time. I can picture her in a white dress walking down the aisle of a church as I wait for her at the alter. I can picture her laying next to me at night and kissing her as I wake up in the morning. I can picture her in the kitchen as we're making breakfast together and our kids are running around. I think I am falling in love...
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Monday, February 8, 2010
New Girlfriend
Life is sometimes Ironic. When I walk around with a copy of The Game it looks like I am walking around with the Bible. I am a pretty spiritual person so I believe that God made it so that I would read that book and go on the journey that I have embarked on. I have learned how to approach, build attraction and comfort. I learned the steps of physical escalations and the importance of Kino. I learned how to act that will make people believe I have value. I notice it in the people I interact with. They sense something in me and have respect for me.
With all my skills I figured something would work out through the act of following the game. I have approached in social settings and gotten a few numbers. Some lead to second dates but nothing all to spectacular. Then one day I was at a wedding. While talking to my cousin a girl notices me in the distance. She approaches my cousins and asks who I was. Later that day my cousin comes up to me and tells me that the girl who approached her had a sister that she wanted to hook me up with. There are many opportunities thrown at us in life and you never know where they will lead so I said yes. After a few e-mails back and forth and a phone conversation we decide to meet up.
Our first date went OK. We met up at a local restaurant, had dinner, and a nice conversation throughout the evening. I didn't think to much of it. It defiantly wasn't love at first site. I talked to her on the phone that week once and we decided to go out again during the following week. We had an entire day together. We had lunch, went bowling, shopping, caught a movie. A fun filled day. We had an absolute blast together. She was down to earth, classy, family oriented and a lot of stuff that you wouldn't find in a girl at the club. She was a bit shy and that is probably one reason I would have never approached her normally. That Friday we had another date. I brought her to the park after we were done and I led her to a bench. I had all the IOI's I needed and went in for the kiss. We went back to the car since it was cold and proceeded to make out.
My last girlfriend was out of state so I couldn't see her that much and the one before that was out of her mind. After taking the journey of enlightenment I was able to see all the flaws I had made with girls in the past. I was also a lot more confident in myself and knew how to talk to her. I made her see a high amount of value and she wanted me. We ended up moving very quickly. We hung out every day during the weekend. She met my friends and I met hers. She also had come over to my house and met my mother and grandmother which is such a shocker for this early in the relationship. I am planning on going over to her house and meeting her folks before the end of the month.
I have always been the kind of guy who will treat a girl right. I will make them feel appreciated and be the guy that they dream of. The problem was I was letting girls walk all over me before. I seeked approval and would do anything for affection. I am worth more then that. I am a man that has a lot going for me and any girl would be lucky to have me. She realizes that and she is lucky that I am in her life and I feel lucky that she came into mine.
I have always believed I would be with one of 2 types of girls. One would be purely based on attraction. This girl would probably have been white, curvy, hopefully geeky, and has a very modern way of thinking. She would want to move into an apartment with me after a few months and marriage wouldn't be on the plate for a while. She would be a sexual creature and I would have to deal with the fact that my family doesn't approve of her. The other type of girl would be the girl that my family wants in my life. She would be Indian, malayalee, christian, from a good family, and has traditional values. Her life goals would be about marriage, kids, and family over career.
My new girlfriend is the second girl. She is perfect for my family. She has never been a rebel at home and is exited about being married and having a family. I know that my mother and my grandmother are my responsibility. I have to take care of them even after I get married. She respects that and is willing to move in. She will also get along real well with my mother. My mother's dream is for to have a daughter in law who she can go to church with, get her nails done with, and shop together with. This girl is willing and happy to do all that. She also does love me. I can see that she is willing to do anything to make me happy. I am having feelings that I never had before. I don't know if it is love just yet but its moving in that direction. I have a lot of stuff that I want in my life. I have a good family, good friends, a great job I love, I have a ton of fun, and now I have a girl that loves me and I can end up seeing myself spending the rest of my life with her.
With all my skills I figured something would work out through the act of following the game. I have approached in social settings and gotten a few numbers. Some lead to second dates but nothing all to spectacular. Then one day I was at a wedding. While talking to my cousin a girl notices me in the distance. She approaches my cousins and asks who I was. Later that day my cousin comes up to me and tells me that the girl who approached her had a sister that she wanted to hook me up with. There are many opportunities thrown at us in life and you never know where they will lead so I said yes. After a few e-mails back and forth and a phone conversation we decide to meet up.
Our first date went OK. We met up at a local restaurant, had dinner, and a nice conversation throughout the evening. I didn't think to much of it. It defiantly wasn't love at first site. I talked to her on the phone that week once and we decided to go out again during the following week. We had an entire day together. We had lunch, went bowling, shopping, caught a movie. A fun filled day. We had an absolute blast together. She was down to earth, classy, family oriented and a lot of stuff that you wouldn't find in a girl at the club. She was a bit shy and that is probably one reason I would have never approached her normally. That Friday we had another date. I brought her to the park after we were done and I led her to a bench. I had all the IOI's I needed and went in for the kiss. We went back to the car since it was cold and proceeded to make out.
My last girlfriend was out of state so I couldn't see her that much and the one before that was out of her mind. After taking the journey of enlightenment I was able to see all the flaws I had made with girls in the past. I was also a lot more confident in myself and knew how to talk to her. I made her see a high amount of value and she wanted me. We ended up moving very quickly. We hung out every day during the weekend. She met my friends and I met hers. She also had come over to my house and met my mother and grandmother which is such a shocker for this early in the relationship. I am planning on going over to her house and meeting her folks before the end of the month.
I have always been the kind of guy who will treat a girl right. I will make them feel appreciated and be the guy that they dream of. The problem was I was letting girls walk all over me before. I seeked approval and would do anything for affection. I am worth more then that. I am a man that has a lot going for me and any girl would be lucky to have me. She realizes that and she is lucky that I am in her life and I feel lucky that she came into mine.
I have always believed I would be with one of 2 types of girls. One would be purely based on attraction. This girl would probably have been white, curvy, hopefully geeky, and has a very modern way of thinking. She would want to move into an apartment with me after a few months and marriage wouldn't be on the plate for a while. She would be a sexual creature and I would have to deal with the fact that my family doesn't approve of her. The other type of girl would be the girl that my family wants in my life. She would be Indian, malayalee, christian, from a good family, and has traditional values. Her life goals would be about marriage, kids, and family over career.
My new girlfriend is the second girl. She is perfect for my family. She has never been a rebel at home and is exited about being married and having a family. I know that my mother and my grandmother are my responsibility. I have to take care of them even after I get married. She respects that and is willing to move in. She will also get along real well with my mother. My mother's dream is for to have a daughter in law who she can go to church with, get her nails done with, and shop together with. This girl is willing and happy to do all that. She also does love me. I can see that she is willing to do anything to make me happy. I am having feelings that I never had before. I don't know if it is love just yet but its moving in that direction. I have a lot of stuff that I want in my life. I have a good family, good friends, a great job I love, I have a ton of fun, and now I have a girl that loves me and I can end up seeing myself spending the rest of my life with her.
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