From The Game

If you actually look at the book the game it was never about teaching you how to pick up women. It was about one mans story of his journey to learn how to pick up women. The character of Stylez is very familiar to a lot of us. I have been in his shoes. I don't feel as if I have the physical characteristics or emotional characteristics to be the person that a women desires. Because you are so unhappy in your life about not having a women you think that happiness will come once you get one.

So as you read the book Neil warns you about what you become once you enter this world. A social robot who's self worth is bases on how many girls he approached that day, how many numbers he had gotten, or how many times he had brought a girl into his bed. It teaches you how to view women as a video game and that they are not real but a challenge to overcome. When you look at a girl that way it takes the humanity out of both you and her.

At the end of the book he finally gets a girl that he falls in love with but not through any means of the teaching that he had before. He gets the girl despite everything he has done. So what do most people get out of the book though? For me and a lot of people we were interested in the method but not the consequences. I wanted to get out there and talk to women and learn how to be successful with them. It wasn't until I looked elsewhere that what I didn't want was to be more successful with them but to be in a better place in life.

The one resource that I rely on the most is probably pick up podcast. The mystery method uses canned lines and routines and breaks down females into just responses for a set of actions. What pick up podcast teaches you is just how to be yourself and how to use that to bring women into your life.

The biggest thing about being good with women is inner game. Inner game is about how you feel inside about who you are. The problem is that most people don't believe that they are good enough for a girl so they will portray that whenever they talk to a girl. There self doubt is very obvious and that is a huge turn off. Guys will often times try do anything to buy the girls affection. Whether it being taking them on expensive dates, buying gifts, or giving up themselves emotionally. While it sounds right to do all this stuff it doesn't cause attraction. Most of the time it will actually hurt the guy to be to invested in the girl and she has no desire for him.

So what exactly does a guy do to be successful with women. Probably the first thing is to forget about women all together. Getting a girl is not the goal. The goal is to enjoy life. What is it that you actually like and go do it. Be happy with your life and people will see that and want to be part of it. The second thing is confidence. You have to believe in yourself. I used to believe I was ugly and have nothing going for me. Now I know I am cute and girls dig me and I am a great catch. I go through life believing that and I make it show.

While I am afraid of approaching strangers I have no problem talking to people I run across in my daily life and having a great conversation with them. I know what people are looking for and I can be myself and build repor with them. The result doesn't matter as long as I am out there full of confidence. The last thing is just trying. If you see a girl that catches your eye just go up to her and try to talk. I discovered so many things about so many people that astonish me. They were very happy to share life with me because I was willing to listen. The last thing is don't worry about being embarrassed. I was the guy who never danced, sings, or opens my mouth to comment. I was to worried that I would look silly so I played it safe. Playing it safe ends up making things worse in the end. Now I let loose. I'll say stupid things, sing along when the radio is on, and have the stupidest moves in the dance floor. I look like I'm having a good time so people want to be a part of that. If I want I invite them to have a good time with me.

A girl will forgive you for pushing the boundaries but will not forgive you for being a pussy. It is the responsibility of the guy to push anything forward. It is his job to approach, to go for the touch, to go for the kiss, and to go for the close. Even if the girl isn't necessarily ready for any step during that process it is still your job to do it. You may never know if she wanted to kiss you unless you actually went there. The worse thing you can do is to let it go. You put so much passion in her and she yearns for you and if you don't deliver she wont forgive you.

The funny thing about me is that the girls that are the most serious with me are not the ones that I have used the game on. I have a girl from Phili who I met on the Indian dating site who is into me and a girl who's sister saw me at a wedding and got hooked up that way. I call it the battle of the Abraham's. They both have the last name Abraham and they both really like me.

While the approach was already taken care of because of the way I met them the rest was still up to me. I've taken both of these girls out on dates and I have kissed both of them. I wasn't going to be a pussy when I am with them. I know who I am and what I want and I'm going to act as such. I believe in myself and know I have a lot to offer someone and while I won't say it outright I will show it. I learned what it is that attracts a female and I use it to my advantage.

The New Year

I have come a long way since I first started. I feel as if a veil has been lifted from my eyes and I can see a lot clearer. Girls are a mystery to me but I can understand them a bit better. More then that is the fact that I can understand myself. I know what I want more then ever an I know where I want to be in the future. The journey has been fun, interesting, and frustrating

I try my hardest that when someone asks me to go out that I say yes. I never used to hang out with my cousin Neil before but I've been to party after party with him. I decided to spend my New Years eve with him at a house party at the Bronx. A year ago I would have never went out for a new years party let alone one in the Bronx. If I were there I probably would sit on a coach somewhere and look at all the people have fun and wish I could be like them. Why not? Why can't I be out there having fun and talking to everyone?

This year I transformed into that guy. I walk through that door and I introduce myself to everyone. I was shocked when I looked around the room and how many hot girls were there in the most amazing outfits. I go up to different girls and start having a conversation. I talk to both the girls and the guys. I have been trained to be in a place like this. While I am still afraid of approach I do it either way. I learn the girls names and a little bit of what they are about. They are all friendly and we have some descent conversations. Music is constantly playing through the party and I am out there dancing with the girls which is something I have always been afraid of. I'm having an absolute blast. Unfortunately I brought a friend that couldn't hold their alcohol so I couldn't fully realize what I wanted that night but I had a great time either way.

Even though I've been putting myself out there It hasn't produced a second meeting with these girls. That is where the other side of my life has come into play. I still meet people from shaadi.com and even through family that has produced some dates. I've been out on several dates with different girls and some of them have been great but It's hard for me to move it in a direction that I want. I don't know how to act properly to push in a direction of sexual attraction vs hey lets just be friends. I end up in the friendship zone way to much. While I have learned a lot I still don't know what to say. I just be myself but being myself isn't escalating sexually.

I'm not discouraged though. I will continue to learn and hopefully see results soon. It can be frustrating at times though. When I see other people having fun in a relationship I wish I could be that guy. When I see a movie where a guy is cocky funny I want to mimic him but not sure how. I know that I have a lot going for me and I should concentrate on that but its hard to want to be something more that you are not.

At a certain point in my life I believed that no girl would ever like me and that if one ever did I would grab onto her and marry her regardless of who she was. Now I have don't almost a complete 180. I don't want just any girl. I want someone who I absolutely love everything about. I need to be attracted to her physically and emotionally. She needs to be beautiful in my eyes. She has to be fun and engaging. She can't be overly defensive. She has to be modern and in tune with a more new way of thinking and not overly traditional. She needs to have silly quirks that make her unique that I fall in love with. I need her to show me affection and love and make me want to give her the world. I have never been in love and I'm not sure what it feels like. I've had dreams in which I was with a girl and it was the most magical feeling in the world and I want that in my life.

I'm not sure what the future holds for me. While I feel sad a descent amount in my life I have hope. God has always provided for me. He has given me what I needed when I needed it. In 10 years I wonder what I will think when I look back. Who will be the person I transform into. Will I look back and think about how far I've come? Unfortunately I can't read the future and I have the power to write the present. I will find my true love...one day.