For a lot of people who enter the game they have something missing in their life. They feel a void in them that they usually try to fill in with sex and girls. If a person can get to that point where they can fill their life with that they may feel temperoraily satisfied but it still won't fill that void.
There was a concept I learned about called the Quarter-Life Crisis. What usually happens at the age of 25 a man gets to a point in his life where he is done with his academics but has not yet decided what he wants in life. Especially in today's times we are given so many options. If we were to get a degree in business or any field we can take that and pursue many different jobs. The question is where do we want to go with our career? What about our social life? By nature men are always horny. Sex runs through our mind non-stop during a day. We see a female and we just enter a mode where we are naked with them in a hotel room living out our fantasy. Unfortunately we never have the courage or the know-how to start an interaction that could possibly lead there. There are so many possibilities for us but we usually don't know which goals we want to pursue. That is what the void is. When we have a purpose in life, goals we want to achieve, and a person we want to become we feel wholeness. The constant pursuit of being a better person and achieving it is what will make us what we want to be
We often times don't know what our purpose in life us. As a child into our teenage years a path is set down for us by our parents. We are forced to go to school and follow a certain path. Our social interactions are limited to what is allowed. As we grow older our limits slowly get removed. By the time we hit our quarter century we are almost limitless. For so long we have followed a path set forth before us that we have a hard time figuring out what our purpose is. Yes we all have our desires and wants but when asked what our reason for being on this earth is most of us wouldn't know what to say. We just live because we are allowed to.
The biggest sticking point of the game but the one that is probably ignored the most is Inner Game. Inner Game is how we feel about ourselves inside and what we believe we can accomplish. I look at myself and I tell myself that I am to fat, don't have a good personality, a girl would be bored with me, or they just want someone else. These are all limiting beliefs that most men have that prevent us from getting what we want in life. When we turn it around and tell ourselves girls want me, I am a good looking man, people want to hear what I have to say we end up being more successful in life. If we go into an interaction believing that the girl wants to be with us we can make that a reality. If we impose our reality we can make other people believe it.
How do we we improve our inner game? The first thing is to acknowledge that it exists and it is important.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Friday, November 6, 2009
Halloween Weekend Field Report
I started the path to enlightenment a few months ago. I set a lot of goals for myself. They always teach you that you should get out there and field test this stuff and not just read the stuff and pretend to know what is going on. So for Halloween weekend I got the ability to try some of what I had been learning out.
Halloween is an awesome time because it lets girls act and dress slutty and be someone they really are not. For guys we can oogle at the awesome costumes that have short skirts and nice cleavage. I don't really know when the last time I was able to enjoy Halloween. The last couple of years I had been working that night and I remember trick or treating as a kid.
Friday night I decide that I haven't seen my best friend for a while so I head out in his direction. We pick up his cousin and catch up over dinner and decide to go bowling aft wards. The bowling alley we picked had a bar attached to it and plenty of hot women. As we are bowling there are tons of people having fun behind me. Beautiful girls in short skirts and people in the bar getting drunk and singing karaoke. A perfect environment to mingle and meet some new people. I walk around and there are people dressed as firemen with skimpy fire outfits, nurses, angels, devils, vampires, airline stewardesses, the works. I was loving every minute of it. Even though the environment was great to approach and talk to these people I just couldn't. I was crippled by approach anxiety. What do I say? What do I do? What if they think I am weird? I don't belong in this place.
I went home that day feeling defeated about not being able to go up to any girls. I didn't even give anyone a hello. When I am home I get a text message from my cousin asking if I was in the club yet. I thought I had a Halloween party to go to the following night but I checked the e-mail and it was a pre-holiday bash. I feel pissed because I miss the party but I wouldn't have been able to go since i had work the next morning. I reply to my cousin saying I messed up and got the date wrong. He tells me that its not a big deal and that he might have another party the next night.
The following day I felt horrible at work. I was tired from the night before and I had a bad headache. I didn't feel like going out that night but I wanted to push myself. When I got home I fell straight asleep and I was awoken by my cell phone ringing. it was my cousin giving me details on the party that night. It was by invite only at an advertising agency in the city. I drive out to my friend, pick up his girlfriend and return to his place. We put makeup on the both of them and get a cab into the city. We arrive at the building and there were 2 guards checking names to make sure they were on the list. Luckily my cousins name was on the list so we head up to the 5Th floor and enter the concept farm.
The concept farm was transformed from a regular office with board rooms, cubicles, and an overall office over to Halloween themed fun house. I could tell that they definitely put a lot of money into making this an incredible party. My cousin and I get the royal tour of the place. I had set a goal in action. I was going to talk to as many sets and girls as possible. So I set out to find anyone to talk to. I was nervous at first but everyone being in costume made it easy to jump in and talk about what there costume is supposed to be. I end up approaching 12-15 different girls that night. Some of them were really receptive and we had a descent conversation. Others said hello and thank you and turned and walked away. One common theme I noticed was I didn't know where to take the conversation. I was so worried that I didn't know what to say next so I just went into interview mode. I was just bombarding them with questions that they didn't want to answer and bringing up topics that they were trying to escape. By the end of the night I felt broken. I talked to so many girls but I had no idea how to talk to girls. I just gave up at the end and just watched TV until it was time to go home.
The following day we had a trip planned to fright fest. It was my best friend, his friend, and a girl I met at a part a month ago who all planned to go. The girl's name was Tasha and I was interested in her. I wanted to take this opportunity to hang out with her and build comfort and attraction with her. I had already opened her, created a level of attraction that had gotten me this far. Problem is so many times I end up in the friend zone. I decide that I am going to use a descent amount of kino, some dhv, and overall alpha male qualities. In the end though she gets annoyed with me turning into an interviewer and she nick named me dad. Apparently I controlled what people did or didn't do so she made fun of it by asking "dad" permission for everything. I also over analyze to many things and I pointed them out.
After the weekend was over I felt horrible about myself. When it comes to girls I never met before I fear approaching them. If I work up enough courage to approach I don't know what to say. If I get to the point where they give me a chance I go into interview mode. When I feel comfortable with them I enter the over analytical mode. Then I internalize everything and I fear going out there and doing anything. I feel lost and not sure if I should continue or how. There are things I need to change about myself but not sure how to do it.
Halloween is an awesome time because it lets girls act and dress slutty and be someone they really are not. For guys we can oogle at the awesome costumes that have short skirts and nice cleavage. I don't really know when the last time I was able to enjoy Halloween. The last couple of years I had been working that night and I remember trick or treating as a kid.
Friday night I decide that I haven't seen my best friend for a while so I head out in his direction. We pick up his cousin and catch up over dinner and decide to go bowling aft wards. The bowling alley we picked had a bar attached to it and plenty of hot women. As we are bowling there are tons of people having fun behind me. Beautiful girls in short skirts and people in the bar getting drunk and singing karaoke. A perfect environment to mingle and meet some new people. I walk around and there are people dressed as firemen with skimpy fire outfits, nurses, angels, devils, vampires, airline stewardesses, the works. I was loving every minute of it. Even though the environment was great to approach and talk to these people I just couldn't. I was crippled by approach anxiety. What do I say? What do I do? What if they think I am weird? I don't belong in this place.
I went home that day feeling defeated about not being able to go up to any girls. I didn't even give anyone a hello. When I am home I get a text message from my cousin asking if I was in the club yet. I thought I had a Halloween party to go to the following night but I checked the e-mail and it was a pre-holiday bash. I feel pissed because I miss the party but I wouldn't have been able to go since i had work the next morning. I reply to my cousin saying I messed up and got the date wrong. He tells me that its not a big deal and that he might have another party the next night.
The following day I felt horrible at work. I was tired from the night before and I had a bad headache. I didn't feel like going out that night but I wanted to push myself. When I got home I fell straight asleep and I was awoken by my cell phone ringing. it was my cousin giving me details on the party that night. It was by invite only at an advertising agency in the city. I drive out to my friend, pick up his girlfriend and return to his place. We put makeup on the both of them and get a cab into the city. We arrive at the building and there were 2 guards checking names to make sure they were on the list. Luckily my cousins name was on the list so we head up to the 5Th floor and enter the concept farm.
The concept farm was transformed from a regular office with board rooms, cubicles, and an overall office over to Halloween themed fun house. I could tell that they definitely put a lot of money into making this an incredible party. My cousin and I get the royal tour of the place. I had set a goal in action. I was going to talk to as many sets and girls as possible. So I set out to find anyone to talk to. I was nervous at first but everyone being in costume made it easy to jump in and talk about what there costume is supposed to be. I end up approaching 12-15 different girls that night. Some of them were really receptive and we had a descent conversation. Others said hello and thank you and turned and walked away. One common theme I noticed was I didn't know where to take the conversation. I was so worried that I didn't know what to say next so I just went into interview mode. I was just bombarding them with questions that they didn't want to answer and bringing up topics that they were trying to escape. By the end of the night I felt broken. I talked to so many girls but I had no idea how to talk to girls. I just gave up at the end and just watched TV until it was time to go home.
The following day we had a trip planned to fright fest. It was my best friend, his friend, and a girl I met at a part a month ago who all planned to go. The girl's name was Tasha and I was interested in her. I wanted to take this opportunity to hang out with her and build comfort and attraction with her. I had already opened her, created a level of attraction that had gotten me this far. Problem is so many times I end up in the friend zone. I decide that I am going to use a descent amount of kino, some dhv, and overall alpha male qualities. In the end though she gets annoyed with me turning into an interviewer and she nick named me dad. Apparently I controlled what people did or didn't do so she made fun of it by asking "dad" permission for everything. I also over analyze to many things and I pointed them out.
After the weekend was over I felt horrible about myself. When it comes to girls I never met before I fear approaching them. If I work up enough courage to approach I don't know what to say. If I get to the point where they give me a chance I go into interview mode. When I feel comfortable with them I enter the over analytical mode. Then I internalize everything and I fear going out there and doing anything. I feel lost and not sure if I should continue or how. There are things I need to change about myself but not sure how to do it.
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