Inner Game

For a lot of people who enter the game they have something missing in their life. They feel a void in them that they usually try to fill in with sex and girls. If a person can get to that point where they can fill their life with that they may feel temperoraily satisfied but it still won't fill that void.

There was a concept I learned about called the Quarter-Life Crisis. What usually happens at the age of 25 a man gets to a point in his life where he is done with his academics but has not yet decided what he wants in life. Especially in today's times we are given so many options. If we were to get a degree in business or any field we can take that and pursue many different jobs. The question is where do we want to go with our career? What about our social life? By nature men are always horny. Sex runs through our mind non-stop during a day. We see a female and we just enter a mode where we are naked with them in a hotel room living out our fantasy. Unfortunately we never have the courage or the know-how to start an interaction that could possibly lead there. There are so many possibilities for us but we usually don't know which goals we want to pursue. That is what the void is. When we have a purpose in life, goals we want to achieve, and a person we want to become we feel wholeness. The constant pursuit of being a better person and achieving it is what will make us what we want to be

We often times don't know what our purpose in life us. As a child into our teenage years a path is set down for us by our parents. We are forced to go to school and follow a certain path. Our social interactions are limited to what is allowed. As we grow older our limits slowly get removed. By the time we hit our quarter century we are almost limitless. For so long we have followed a path set forth before us that we have a hard time figuring out what our purpose is. Yes we all have our desires and wants but when asked what our reason for being on this earth is most of us wouldn't know what to say. We just live because we are allowed to.

The biggest sticking point of the game but the one that is probably ignored the most is Inner Game. Inner Game is how we feel about ourselves inside and what we believe we can accomplish. I look at myself and I tell myself that I am to fat, don't have a good personality, a girl would be bored with me, or they just want someone else. These are all limiting beliefs that most men have that prevent us from getting what we want in life. When we turn it around and tell ourselves girls want me, I am a good looking man, people want to hear what I have to say we end up being more successful in life. If we go into an interaction believing that the girl wants to be with us we can make that a reality. If we impose our reality we can make other people believe it.

How do we we improve our inner game? The first thing is to acknowledge that it exists and it is important.