Good Boyfriend

I have reached an interesting place in my life. Everything I can ask for I am getting. My career is going well, I am having a ton of fun, and I have a girlfriend. Regardless of what is going on in your life you find a way to fill it with something. When I was single I would fill it with video games, movies, television. Now that my girlfriend has entered the picture I find myself missing some of the stuff I used to have a ton of time for. I would always stay on top of my DVR and be caught up with all the latest show but now I find myself deleting stuff I don't watch to make more room for other shows.

Throughout life we all come across change. Change from school to work. Change from single to married. Change from apartment to home. With that we must become flexible and adapt to our new circumstances. With my new girlfriend things have moved pretty quickly. It has been only a month and a half with her but we have spent so much time together. My last couple of girlfriends have been long distance so we sometimes see each other once or twice a month. With my new girl we go out 3-4 times a week.

Being from a traditional Indian family my dating lifestyle is a bit more restricted. I am supposed to hide my dating life from my family a bit more but I haven't. A lot of my friends and family know that we are in a very serious relationship. She has come over to my house and met my parents and I've met her whole family. The one thing I would have never imagined was being able to be in either of our bedrooms with the door closed while our family has been in the house. I have never ventured this far in a relationship before so it is exciting and scary at the same time.

I have learned how to attract her through my recent education of the game but I don't know the correct way to be a good boyfriend. There are a lot of dont's when first dating a girl that become do's as you enter a serious relationship. You are not supposed to compliment a girl, pay for her, or give her affection. If you continue to do that when you are her boyfriend, that relationship is doomed. The material I have read doesn't go that far. I am doing what I always do in most relationships and hoping that works. I feel there has to be a balance in being a good boyfriend. You still have to be confident and be the man to keep her attracted. You can't be a prick and bring her down or else she will feel unworthy and that's not a good relationship to have. I have no problem changing who I am to accommodate a girl but I still want to keep who I am. I don't want to be whipped and cater to everything she wants but I do want to make her happy. The best relationship is when both people care about each other and do things to make each other happy.

Shincy (my girlfriend) has changed my life. I have never felt this way about a girl before her. We are hanging out all weekend long and I don't get tired of her. I am always planning our next date and am excited to spend time with her. Even though it's only been a month and a half we have already started talking about marriage. While a little scary to think about I can see myself spending the rest of my life with her. One of her friends put it best. You guys have such a relaxed relationship and have a ton of affection for each other. She does stuff to make me happy and I want to make her happy. I know when I get out of work I'll be calling her to hear her voice and see how her day has went. When Friday comes around we'll be out on the town having a great time. I can picture her in a white dress walking down the aisle of a church as I wait for her at the alter. I can picture her laying next to me at night and kissing her as I wake up in the morning. I can picture her in the kitchen as we're making breakfast together and our kids are running around. I think I am falling in love...