Life after marriage

It's hard to believe that I am married. It doesn't feel like I it but here I am. When we were getting closer to the wedding it felt more like completing tasks for the wedding then actually preparing for my own wedding. After months of planning the day had come and while it start off a little bumpy with the limo not showing up to her house on time, it ended up being a great party.

Everyone had a good time and they thought it was an amazing wedding even for new york standards. People who came from Florida and beyond were really impressed with how organized the event was and how much people were dancing and having a great time all around. In the background there were things that didn't go perfectly right but no one really noticed. The best thing that happened was the fact that we got DJ Sherod. I really didn't know who he was but when Shincy saw him there she was shocked. DJ Sherod was apparently a very popular MC that is impossible to book. He was the main reason the party turned out so well. He was able to get people up on the dance floor and they had a great time.

The wedding was wonderful and that following week we went down for our honeymoon to St Lucia. When I was planning for the honeymoon the fact that we were going to be on vacation afterwards didn't really hit me. It was all about getting the wedding right that once we were on our way down we started to get really excited. We got there and it was beautiful. They had great food, great staff and we just spent a lot of time on the resort on the beach or hanging out in the pool. We had a great time and it was a memorable trip.

We came back and we are living in my mother's house currently which makes saving money easy but it has caused some stress on her. She gets along well with my mother and my grandmother but the fact still remains that she doesn't own the place she lives in. My mother is used to the way my sister and I act. My sister was tough and was eager to make it on her own. I am a little more relaxed and don't let to many things bother me. I leave my door unlocked and people come and go as they please. Once Shincy arrived the door to our room is locked and my mother and grandmother feel a little weird that they don't have access to the full house. While things are fine I do feel like I am stuck in a hard situation. I love my family but I have to be true to my wife. I put her needs ahead of my own and when it comes to the family I know I am going to disappoint them.

Being a single bachelor I could go to sleep whenever I wanted, play video games, watch TV, or take naps whenever I felt like it. My main responsibilities were to make sure I went to work on time and pay my bills regularly. Being married changed all that. If Shincy says that she is tired we go to bed. Bed times are now 10 or 10:30 instead of midnight which I would do every so often. I would also snack after I got back from work and eat dinner in my room. Now we eat dinner in the dining room around 7 pm. The thing that has changed the most is playing video games. I love video games to the point where I am addicted to them. I get an itch when I am at work or surfing the internet and get excited to play when I get home. Once we get home from work I still have that itch but I have to spend time with her and do things we want to do together. It's not terrible though because she does give me space every so often and I can get my game on.

I love my wife but love is not the only thing about marriage. There is a lot of compromise, responsibilities, and decisions about how to live life. Simple choices like what to eat for dinner and what to watch on TV doesn't always work for both people. Then there are the bigger decisions like where to live and how to raise children that could be more problematic if both people don't agree. I am pretty easy going and open minded but that doesn't mean I don't have things I believe are important to me. We haven't gotten to a point where we have a big disagreement on something but we are pretty different and that does scare me for future decisions we have to make.

For now I am enjoying the married life. We spend a lot of time together and I like that. She shows me love all the time and that was not something I expected in my life with how the earlier parts of my life turned out. I consider myself very luck to find her and to be at this point in my life. I feel like I am living my American dream.