It is April now and I have been in this relationship for almost 3 months. Things are starting to settle down in somewhat of a routine. She got a 9-5 job that is a bit further away so we try to see each other at least once during the week and whatever days we can during the weekend. My mother is used to seeing her around the house and cooks for her when she knows she is coming by and has already bought her a present for her birthday coming up. We are getting very comfortable in our relationship and are always talking about the next step.
We share a lot of qualities. We are go with the flow people, loving toward each other, and share similar goals for what we want in the future. We differ in a lot of small stuff though. As far as palette goes I prefer more American based foods while she enjoys more Indian and Mediterranean food. Regardless of where we go we will still find something that we can both eat. I am more hardcore when it comes to technology, video games, movies, and TV shows. I have not seen anything that she is overly passionate about but she does dabble in things she finds interesting. Wherever we do go we have fun and enjoy each other's company.
One of the goals that we share is marriage and kids. Where we differ is in the "when". With my family, friends, and even stories of people I don't know, there is usually a descent gap from when they first met to when they actually get married. For the most part people get married sometime between 2 and 3 years. She experiences the opposite side. For her marriage happens within a few short months of meeting. Once you know you want to get married set the date. When we had first talked about it her goal was to get married by November. I was surprised when I heard this. I thought she would have share a similar timeline with how my sisters and cousins have done it. While discussing it, her family and friends have always married quickly. Her sister had talked to a guy from India and within 6 months she flew out there, met him for the first time and got married. One of her close college friends met a girl through an Indian matchmaking site and within a month he had proposed to her and got married that same year.
Now we want to get married but we clash on how long we should wait. My original plan if everything wen well was to propose to her by the end of the year between Thanksgiving and Christmas and have a wedding in the fall of next year. Her plan was to be engaged before the summer and married before the year ended. I have no problem pushing up the wedding but there are a lot of logistics to planning a wedding. Getting a hall, booking a church, DJ, caterer, cake, seating charts, invites, and getting everything to go well takes a lot of planning. I'm not sure if its possible to arrange with a smaller time gap. We were thinking about a May wedding because our churches don't allow marriage for the 40 days leading up to Easter. May is the beginning of the wedding season so it would be more expensive to do it at that time and more difficult to book exactly what we want.
While she still wants to do it November we won't be able to get the vacation time this year and get everything up and running when it comes to families getting the time off as well. She doesn't want to wait until May so she wants it sometime in January or February,. My main dilemma with those months is how cold it will be. I'm afraid that there will probably be a snow storm at that time or everyone will have to wear a heavy coat on top of their beautiful dresses. We won't be able to take any pictures outside and will be limited to indoor stuff only. The good thing is prices will be better since not a lot of people will be having weddings around that time.
Shincy is the girl I want to marry. Even though we have only been together for 3 months I have spent more time with her then any girl before. I love her and she loves me. She gets along well with my family and I with hers. She is stable in her career, enjoys what she does, and shares similar life goals with me. I don't expect things to be easy and I will have to work to make us both happy. I look forward to my future with her and can't wait to spend the rest of my life together with her.
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